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Thoughts for a Woman's Heart |
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encouragement in things that matter |
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Speaking Encouragement
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There is an undeniable power in the words we speak. Words are capable of destroying, of creating chaos, or of healing. James says, "The tongue is a flame of fire. It is full of wickedness that can ruin your whole life. It can turn the entire course of your life into a blazing flame of destruction, for it is set on fire by hell itself." Wow! That’s strong language! But James also says that the tongue is capable of both praising God and giving a blessing! Watch the contrast in how we speak to our children. Our words of commendation and approval are absorbed by them like a sponge and they swell with the security of knowing Mom is pleased with them. I know they don’t delight in our discipline, but must our words attack the person they are becoming? Must our position of authority over them be postured in arrogance and intimidation? Some of us are much more natural in speaking words of encouragement. Others of us need to work at it. Personally, I am viewed by some as an encourager, but I recognize that it’s not always a developed habit with me to thank or commend the ones I work the closest with or the ones I love the most. With those, I need to occasionally evaluate how I am doing, and put forth a more conscious effort to speak words that uplift and communicate my gratitude and appreciation. I am very aware of times that I have written a note, sent an email, or simply said the words, and have had a response of "Thanks. That is such a help." Paul admonishes us to only use words that build up the other person and extend grace to the one who hears. Have you ever listened to yourself react to someone who has just shared with you a sin issue she may be struggling with or spiritual doubts that may be darkening her perspective? Are we grace-givers in those times? Obviously, abusive words, or words of anger, wrath, malice, or slander, offer nothing in the area of encouragement, but how much easier sometimes it can be to allow such words to fall from our tongue. The psalmist prayed that the words of his mouth would be acceptable to God. Perhaps if we were more mindful that God is one who is always listening to the words we speak, and perhaps if we simply sought a greater consciousness of how our words are received by others who listen, it would help us avoid speech that is destructive. Silence though or withdrawal is not the answer. To fulfill Paul’s admonition to build up and extend grace, we must also develop habits that encourage with our words. In short, if we know something encouraging to pass on, say it! And if we need to look a little longer to find that encouraging word, take the time. |
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— Bev |
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